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Monthly Archives: July 2009

The New Wave Academy for Women

  TH:  Good evening, and welcome to The Thinking Housewife. My guest tonight is the eminently fictitious Ellie Forthnaught, founder and sole proprietor of an interesting new venture in education, the New Wave Academy for Women. Welcome, Mrs. Forthnaught. Mrs. F:  Thank you. Thrilled to be here. TH:  Mrs. Forthnaught, –  may we call you Ellie? [...]

The Beautiful Sleep

  In an age when many people do not believe in immortality, Paradise is truly lost. Or is it? I like to question people about their views of life after death or, as the case may be, of non-life after death. Often, their ideas do not include a heavenly resurrection, but a state of long and lasting sleep. ”I will simply fall asleep,” they [...]

The Decline of Matchmaking

  “The business of her life was to get her daughters married; its solace was visiting and news.”                                                                                          Pride and Prejudice, Jane Austen Such is the bygone world of Austen’s Mrs. Bennet, mother of the legendary Elizabeth Bennet, who ultimately lands the most grumpy and charming man in all English literature. It is rare, if not unknown, for [...]

The Fragile Male Income

  Karen from England writes in regard to Why We Must Discriminate: Men’s jobs are no longer secure as a consequence of globalisation, economic collapse and recession. Therefore women cannot rely on men as providers. This leaves many women with no option but to pursue careers and develop their own financial independence which provides them [...]

More on Discrimination

  Sara Rogers writes: In your article Why We Must Discriminate, you said: “Women provide an unseen defense against moral enervation. They cannot provide this defense when they are preoccupied with money and highly consuming work. I think that’s the big difference between some of my critics and me. This invisible task, which can never be fully [...]

A Pointed Criticism

  Jen writes: I enjoy your site, but wonder why you don’t have any pics up; or even some insight to your everyday housewife occurences.  Your site, as interesting as it is, seems to favor the more simplistic, dowdy demeanor that is characteristic of men’s preferences. So I wonder…are you really a “housewife” or a [...]

Further Comments on Discrimination

  The discussion over my article Why We Must Discriminate continues. I am accused of “utter nonsense” in saying that the work lives of women interfere with family life and the stability of marriage. By the way, if you find the text of these pages too small to read, go to View in the task bar and then [...]

Tocqueville on Women

  Alexis de Tocqueville was a social prophet of the highest order. We ignore his acute descriptions of American society at our peril. Here is Tocqueville on women in America: Thus the Americans do not think that man and woman have either the duty or the right to perform the same offices, but they show an [...]

Why We Must Discriminate

  Over the last 50 years, America has witnessed the cultural ruin of its women. When women fall, an entire way of life and civilization itself are not far behind. In order to reverse this state of affairs, a profound change in attitudes and prevailing mores is necessary. It’s not a question of returning to [...]

Two Kingdoms

      I have never lived in the Kingdom of Domestic Perfection, but I’ve caught glimpses of it. Peering through its gleaming gates, I’ve seen its streamlined highways and well-lit interiors. Perhaps you already live there and know all about it. Then I don’t need to tell you that the skies are a consistent hue and [...]

The War Against Sadness

  Psychologists have worked hard to prove sadness is pathological. They have redefined the black mood and demonized melancholy. They have packaged pessimism as depression and intensity as disorder. The attempt to rid the world of sadness is totalitarian in nature. There is no happiness, no humanity even, without sorrow and despair. Every human being finds a satisfactory [...]

Men in Aprons

  The egalitarian dream of companionate marriage in which men and women co-parent, co-dust, co-cook, and co-resent each other is explored in an article in Atlantic, a magazine that has matched our cultural decline with its own remorselessly juvenile articles on family decay. The author, Sandra Tsing Loh, bares her divorce for all the world to see. She and her middle-aged [...]

An Infertility Cure

  In an interview in the New York Times today, the photographer Lillian Bassman makes an interesting, politically-incorrect admission. When Bassman was young and newly married, she did not want children. Her husband did. So Bassman went to a psychotherapist. Within six weeks, her desire for children was awakened. She had a son and daughter. An unmarried woman who chooses [...]

Still Life with Lemons and Oranges

    If human beings had no need for variety – and for alternating stillness and activity -  there would be no need for domesticity. We could live like horses in penned pastures. Day after day, the same grass, the same sky. We could live like well-oiled furnaces, humming and churning without skipping notes. We could be as static [...]

Excellence in Parenthood

  Here is a partial list of the virtues children need to learn in order to flourish as adults. Once acquired, these virtues tend to last, or at least to make a lasting impression. But, they may take many years to acquire:     Truthfulness     Neatness     Obedience     Self-control     Courtesy     Respect for elders [...]