May 23, 2012
IN the post on Valerie Trierweiler, the live-in girlfriend of French president François Hollande, I referred to the outfit she wore to his swearing in — a dress that allowed full view of her upper thigh — as a form of “sexual aggression.”
This idea that women display aggression by their choice of revealing clothing is foreign and preposterous to most Western women, who believe that clothing expresses merely personal taste and that male psychology can be molded — and should be molded. If they dress like a whore that does not mean for heaven’s sake that they are a whore.
Their denial that the most basic sex differences exist grants them a sort of innocence about the effects of revealing clothing, and in many cases this innocence is entirely genuine. At the same time, they acknowledge their acute awareness of sex differences by drawing attention to their bodily attributes. Since they have been taught endlessly that there is no such thing as an aggressive woman and that men can turn on and off at will their reactions to female flesh, they are ignorant of their own aggressive instincts and the effects these instincts have on others, creating an environment that is hyper-sexualized and, paradoxically, emasculating.
Below a perceptive female reader expands upon this point in response to this post on immodest dress.
Immodest dress is analogous to male violence. Men who flaunt their muscles and crush beer can’s with their fists (not that I have seen much of that lately) are telling the weaker world around them, “I could crush you. Maybe I will, maybe I won’t.We’ll see. Depends how much you annoy me.” Women are stronger than men in this one way – the sight of their women’s bodies is overpowering to men. Immodest women are saying to men, “You could have sex with me, if I let you. Maybe I will, maybe I won’t. It depends how much you annoy me.”
Both behaviors are flaunting the power that one has over another weaker being and both behaviors used to be considered uncouth.
But as the myth goes: only men have ever been violent towards women not the other way around (women have no power over men whatsoever – don’t you know!) and so now that we have entered the great age of woman – when she will get her revenge for all the injustices against her by men through the ages – both real and imagined — she has decided to take her “pound of flesh.” But instead of a swift cut right above the heart like Shylock she wants to get men where it really hurts– tease and taunt with the sight of her own body, forever reminding men of their weakness before female power.
So here we are. Aggressive men are still barbarians but aggressive women are modern, enlightened and to be praised.
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This is sooooo true… as a male I can ABSOLUTELY attest to this.
“Women are stronger than men in this one way – the sight of their women’s bodies is overpowering to men. Immodest women are saying to men, “You could have sex with me, if I let you. Maybe I will, maybe I won’t. It depends how much you annoy me.”
As a celibate male I must actively work at constraining sexual response to females flaunting their wares.. “You could have sex with me, if I let you. Maybe I will, maybe I won’t.”.. yeah right. If I was an alpha male — strong, thin, tall, tanned.. definitely — I’ll also have to be honest and say it does piss me off, but suppressing ordinary human responses is part and parcel of not only being a civilized human being, but a Christian which constrains me further. The mating domain for women in a “romantic” love Anglosphere spews lies to men that your appearance doesn’t matter…. hahahahahhah. DAMN LIES.
Women are the sexual power brokers. They can and do decide with whom they pair and mate with. Men are essentially powerless save those few well endowed “alphas” (rich, physical specimens, powerful) who are like kryptonite to many women. Any male that is half-aware knows the look: “Yes.. look at me.. I’m sexually desirable. See my power. Feel my power..” Oh, then the look away: “But you aren’t worthy of me.” Happens EVERY day.
Most women are clueless about this. They are not consciously aggressive. They honestly don’t realize how sensitive men are to visual cues. (And their attraction to alpha men is no more wrong than your attraction to beautiful women.) It used to be they were taught to be sensitive by a society that understood and accepted these realities.
Immodest dress by a woman is a form of sexual harassment. It’s interesting how feminists bitterly resent being regarded as “sex objects,” while vehemently defending their right to dress as sex objects. The hypocrisy is astounding.
It is a form of sexual harrassment, but, again, it is not conscious for many women.
Although I agree with everything that has been spoken about modern women and immodest dress, there exists another category of immodestly dressed women in America – victims of childhood sexual abuse.
These women are usually not willing participants in feminist behavior and lack many mindsets of “aggressive” feminist women; they are often quite the opposite, although they definitely feel very victimized by men – and for good reason. These women, who dress as sluts as teens and adults, have learned that they are indeed only useful as sexual toys, and even when they are no longer being abused by their childhood perpetrators, they engage in behavior and dress that invites further abuse in adulthood by stealth hunters posing as gentlemen. They are ignorant, and need to be taught that what they are doing is causing further victimization for themselves (and others.)
I was once one of these women: a female friend was loving enough to take me bra shopping as a thirty-three year old adult and teach me about covering my body so as not to invite further abuse. Other people waited patiently and said nothing; this was a disservice to me as I could have transformed more quickly if people would have had the confidence to open their mouths and teach me the truth. Others condemned me without knowing my story, and I withdrew in offense.
While it is true that immodest dress is a form of aggression in feminist women, I want to bring to light that sexual abuse of young girls has become so prevalent that many women we see walking around today dressed as prostitutes may still be ensnared and imprisoned by their victim mentality brought about through no fault of their own due to horrendous acts of abuse against their bodies as children. I believe it is important that these women do not experience condemnation, but rather righteous judgment in love so as to bring about repentance from this behavior so that they may be healed and be examples to others. This requires great patience and tenderness on the part of the mentor.
If anyone had told me I was trying to be “aggressive” and taunt men with my sexual power when I was dressing as a whore (before I was healed emotionally), I would have been horrified and would have failed to receive anything else that person had to say. I think it is important to recognize that this segment of the female population exists, and while they are truly victims (feminists only “perceive” that they are victims of abuse of male dominance), they can be taught to be victorious and not slip over into the dark side of feminist mindsets and actions.
It’s not just women who have been abused who unwittingly become hypersexual. I know teenage girls who are sweet and innocent, and have never been abused, who dress like tarts. It’s everywhere. They see it and they imitate it.
Fitzgerald said: “The mating domain for women in a “romantic” love Anglosphere spews lies to men that your appearance doesn’t matter.. hahahahahhah. DAMN LIES….Women are the sexual power brokers. They can and do decide with whom they pair and mate with.”
I understand Fitzgerald’s frustration but this needs a little tempering. I have too many female friends who have had their hopes dashed/hearts broken/been humiliated at the hands of average-looking, low status guys to buy that women have all the power. These average young women were doing what they thought they were supposed to do, what they were told everyone was doing – having premarital sex, that is. They were told by feminists that it was as fun for them as it was for the men if only they would get into the spirit of it, that it would lead to ultimate happiness, that it would benefit them. Many girls of average attractiveness are giving themselves away, sometimes over and over again, to unworthy men and to their own heartbreak, while the strains of “Your Body is a Wonderland” play in the background. I don’t call that sexual power. That men are more vulnerable to visual cues doesn’t make all men innocent, just as some women’s extreme immodesty doesn’t make all women sexual power brokers.
What Laura said is absolutely true: “Most women are clueless about this. They are not consciously aggressive. They honestly don’t realize how sensitive men are to visual cues. (And their attraction to alpha men is no more wrong than your attraction to beautiful women.) It used to be they were taught to be sensitive by a society that understood and accepted these realities.”
That’s what’s so diabolical about today’s extreme immodesty: many of these women are just trying to be relevant.
There are countless victims of the age of sexual license in which we live, both male and female.
Most women are clueless about this. They are not consciously aggressive. They honestly don’t realize how sensitive men are to visual cues.
This is a good point to realize if we want to stop (and we must stop it!) the cycle of blame and resentment between the sexes. There are many sociosexual realities that women don’t consciously perceive; to them it’s just like the air they breathe.
For instance, what’s it like to be an attractive young woman? Well, it is to live a life in which every man, everywhere, is nice to you. Hard as it is for men to believe, young women often genuinely don’t grasp that men are nice to them because they’re beautiful. Young women think that’s just the way the world is: filled with nice, obliging people. Then they get a little older; they wake one day to notice that their looks have faded and suddenly people aren’t so nice anymore – and she still doesn’t consciously understand why. “How come people are mean to me now when they used to be nice?” A fate that should give us some sympathy for women.
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