July 2, 2009
Statistics suggest that scattering one’s wild oats before settling down does not lead to greater marital happiness. Perhaps this is why. Pre-marital affairs raise expectations of novelty marriage cannot satisfy. They also offer experience in how to end it all – sometimes with brutal efficiency.
Here’s Markus, at VFR, on the subject:
“The idea that having multiple sexual relationships while young will help you get something out of your system that needs getting out, and will lead you to experience a more stable and contented life afterward, is flat-out false. Rather, such a lifestyle creates a set of expectations–and frustratingly vivid memories–that will cause those who find themselves in the humdrum of a marital relationship (with all that that entails) to pine longingly for the old days, when they had what now seems like not a care in the world…”