October 26, 2009
There are two kinds of women in this world: women who divorce and those who stand by and passively watch. The first kind of women wreck the lives of their children and husbands. The second kind say, “We cannot judge.”
I am sorry to be grim. I have witnessed many divorces. Sometimes I feel as if my family lives amid the rubble of a ruined village. As I walk through this town, I see the place where the post office used to stand and the old bank and that church with the white steeple. All gone. They were decent structures. Each could have lasted for many years. With a few exceptions, they were destroyed by women, capricious women for whom divorce is the most romantic project of their lives.
It’s not true that men are the principal losers. So many women ruin their own happiness and the happiness of invisible communities formed by couples. I cannot help but come to this inescapable conclusion: Women cannot handle freedom.
For more reflections on why women divorce, see my recent post, The Unfaithful Wife.